tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3523182254163212092.post3294996587875630059..comments2011-10-06T13:06:05.556-06:00Comments on Irish Eyes are Smiling and Crying: who's trueCristinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11808760498736313382noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3523182254163212092.post-79844923913302792832009-11-25T16:43:23.993-07:002009-11-25T16:43:23.993-07:00For Christmas cards we have the kids picture taken...For Christmas cards we have the kids picture taken and in the photo is E's Giraffe and L's Frog. They represent them, so while its not an actual photo of them, they are being honoured and remembered. I might also include something in the signature this year, to honour them more. I didn't do it last year with E (his Giraffe was in the photo, but nothing in the signature line about his name) but that was because I was afraid of making others uncomfortable. No more, they are my children and deserved to be remembered. If you are uncomfortable, too bad for you. Maybe you could do something like that?<br /><br />I know all too well the feelings of friends leaving you and not being there for you. I have 2 close friends, or should I say 2 close ex-friends who basically fell off the face of the planet after we lost L. One of them was there for me when we lost E, but after L, nothing. She never once sent me an e-mail, facebook message, phone call, nothing. She has never asked me how I am. She never even came to his funural. Its sad that these "friends" were such a huge part of my life, but when it apparently got too tough for them, they left. Last time I checked it was ME who went through hell, twice. Anyways, I don't have any words or advice, just know I can relate.<br /><br />Lots of *hugs*Kristyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15134970929000997104noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3523182254163212092.post-71681374825523518692009-11-20T14:51:54.481-07:002009-11-20T14:51:54.481-07:00Hey Cristen - I totally hear you on the "true...Hey Cristen - I totally hear you on the "true friend" thing... it's truly amazing who steps up to the plate when you need them most.... and sometimes disappointing with who doesn't.<br /><br />I am thinking about Christmas cards this too.... I think I will use one of our family pictures (which includes Nicholas' name/bear).. just feels right. I like Angie's idea about signing 'remembering and loving Cayden'...<br /><br />Love,<br />LeaLeahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05569964047627902570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3523182254163212092.post-19392746367621033842009-11-20T08:51:48.881-07:002009-11-20T08:51:48.881-07:00Visiting from Nicholas' Touch. So sorry for y...Visiting from Nicholas' Touch. So sorry for your loss. My son died in August 2008 at 17 months old) while trying to get out of his crib. Life will never be the same again, but we get up and try every day to go on. <br /><br />I am in tears just thinking about the Christmas card thing. Last year, even though Caleb had already died, I included a picture of him from when he wasn't yet a year old surrounded by a string of lights...this year I don't know what to do.<br /><br />With love and hope,<br />CherylCherylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09995656964857816898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3523182254163212092.post-40900117065399789482009-11-17T02:47:50.388-07:002009-11-17T02:47:50.388-07:00I totally agree that it is a gift our babies give ...I totally agree that it is a gift our babies give us--figuring out who our real friends are and not.<br /><br />I'm not sure if it helps or not, but I was wondering what to do for Christmas cards too, since it is also the one year anniversary for my daughter's death, so I wrote something like a birth and death announcement. Not the point, but Irishdad had a suggestion on his blog of writing or signing from Me, Husband, child and remembering Lost Baby. I love that, because you can sign, but not ignore the fact. xostill life angiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15150141781089602529noreply@blogger.com